Today, we invite you to board the ship of curiosity and discover the benefits of anal sex!
Mysteries, Mysteries...
There are many reasons why anal stimulation can be pleasurable: the anus is lined with a network of sensitive tissues, and much like how the vagina contracts to produce orgasm, the rectal cavity is also composed of muscles that work similarly. Located near the cavity are several areas rich in nerve endings that can be stimulated—such as the prostate, the G-spot, and the famous deep spot—all of which are treasures of human pleasure. Additionally, sexual pleasure is largely psychological, and anal sex can be a source of excitement by pushing us to explore intriguing new boundaries.
However, unlike how porn often portrays it as something spontaneous and ecstatic for everyone, it’s perfectly valid to feel indifferent or intimidated by the idea of anal sex. Anal sex is not a rite of passage. Respect your limits and instead invest your energy in discovering sexual activities that make you feel comfortable. Anal stimulation is only enjoyable if it’s genuinely desired: with the physical and psychological discomforts it can cause at first, it’s your willingness and ability to let go that will allow you to experience authentic pleasure.
Does this resonate with you?
For those who are intrigued, this brings us to the key step of our adventure: preparation and training.
Attention, this is a marathon, not a sprint. As a first step, try perineum massages or anilingus to get familiar with this area, followed by the insertion of fingers or small butt plugs. It’s normal for the first experiences to feel destabilizing since you’re exploring a new bodily function. Since the anus is a muscle, training requires consistency: have fun wearing your anal toys a few times a week until you feel ready to move up to a larger size… or even a penis!
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What’s next?
From one session to the next, other essential steps should be repeated: generous use of lubricant to compensate for the fact that the anus doesn’t self-lubricate, and exploring different positions to control the pace and depth of penetration.
It’s also advisable to start sexual activity with other types of stimulation to promote excitement and relaxation. Lastly, learn to listen to your body and distinguish between temporary discomfort and significant pain or lack of pleasure. Some people will persist in training and come to love it, while others may never reach that stage. Both reactions are perfectly normal: anal sex isn’t magically satisfying for everyone, and no one should ever endure something that doesn’t bring them pleasure.
As for hygiene...
Surprise! The rectum is actually cleaner than you might think. While the anus should be cleaned before any oral-genital contact, the use of anal douches is not mandatory before penetration. In reality, “accidents” are rare, and if they do happen, let’s gently remind ourselves that it’s simply a reality of the human body! Usually, having a bowel movement an hour before sexual activity is sufficient. Excessive use of anal douches can damage the intestinal flora, so incorporating more fiber, fruits, and vegetables into your diet is a healthier alternative.
If anal sex sometimes sparks awkward discussions, remember that having access to someone’s body and intimacy is a privilege. It should happen between partners who feel comfortable communicating their concerns. Human bodies and emotions are unpredictable. So, who put the idea in our heads that sexuality is always glamorous and smooth sailing?
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Ultimately, with all the preparation it requires, you could say it’s a real adventure! Yes, it has its challenges, but the reward is all the sweeter when you reach the peak. Whether you embark on this journey alone or with a partner, preparation, authenticity, and consideration will be your best allies.
What’s next? Pegging, stimulating creams, rotating toys... Let your creativity run wild!